Betty's Pub 20.1
Main Menu => BETTY PEARL'S PUB FOR SISSIES => Topic started by: cutepatti on July 27, 2017, 03:14:27 PM
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I am in my 2nd marriage. My first wife died several years ago and knew of my crossdressing but preferred I keep it to myself. I have since remarried a male-to-female transgender who not only is a great companion/partner/lover but also fully supports me in all ways. Just curious about others on here who are married and what your spouse thinks about your sissy self. Both of my wives have been great as partners, but my current wife has opened up a lot of doors for me that never were before. :)
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??? No responses to this post yet. Maybe nobody is interested or just too shy to open up to this question? Sharing our experiences might be a good thing for this forum. I'm willing to open up if others are. If not I'll ask Betty to take down this post for lack of interest. At least I'm trying to generate some discussion. Thx. Patti :)
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Sadly, most people who like the sissy or ABDL lifestyles & fantasies, are either single, separated, divorced, or it is not supported by their family & spouse.
So most of them don't want to talk about it. Many keep it a secret from who they're living with or their loved ones. They don't even want to talk about it in a public forum for fear that someone they know will stumble on it, & make the connection to them.
Some who do have a loved one who knows about their crossdressing, would not open up about their sissy or an ABDL side of it. Indeed, I see a few here that also visit CD sites talking about a new skirt, nylons, or heels, but never mention their sissy side there, & almost never utter a word here, even though they visit here 1-14 times a week.
Indeed, being a bit of an "underground" site, with more privacy & security than most sites (some banks & most stores should be so secure), is a big attraction for those want to keep their fantasies a secret. We may be able to easily find Betty's through a simple google search, but if they're using an ISP or tools typically used by bad guys, hackers, blackmailers, & trolls, more often than not they can't see the contents of our sissy pages. At Stories, if you use a bad ISP, hacker tools, & bad tricks when visiting the page, you'll get a 404 error message that we don't even exist.
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THX for the info Betty. And I can understand what you are saying about privacy, etc. Seems we are mostly anonomous on here so I thought that would allow us all to open up about things that others on here would understand and appreciate sharing our feelings without worry. But I'm still a newbie and maybe need to 'learn the ropes' of how these wonderful forums operate. Thank you! :)
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Hi cutepatti,
like Betty said many here consider this a private and personal matter. Like myself it brings up bad memories of always having to hide my Kinky side from family. Then there are the times we were discovered and punished for something we could not really help ourselves avoid. My girly side and the dressing up were a constant nagging issue that I tried to hide away many times but no matter how many times I purged my collection of girls things I would be drawn back into it again and again. Some who follow here may be cross dressers or like myself are convinced they should have been born a girl but we do feel somewhat anonomous posting here under Betty's care.
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THX Angela for such a great response. I feel much the way that you do, with the lifelong feelings of being a girl and having to repress/hide it most of my life. In early years not understanding why I felt the way I did and having no information, feeling like I was a freak and that I was the only little boy in the world who had these strange but wonderful feelings. And now I still feel like a little girl trapped in an adult male body. And it has caused me to do a lot of hurtful things along the way just beause I didn't really know how to control it and acted out in hurtful ways, to myself and especially to my 1st wife. Now I am married to someone who understands my feelings and lets me be whatever I need to be. I'm not blaming my 1st wife for any of what I was doing and she put up with a lot beause she loved me even if she couldn't deal well with my girlish feelings. I only blame myself. I think we all have a lot in common and that's why I posted this here. Hopefully more will not be afraid to express their feelings. Thank you.
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Hi cutepatti,
I too thought I was the only boy with feelings like that. I started dressing in my sisters dresses and panties at about age four and being the only boy in an all female household it was thought of as cute. I had very blond shoulder length hair as mom thought it was nice and we could not afford for me to get it cut anyway. When I played dress up with my sister I was one of the girls, (we lived with my grandma and three aunts) so it was tolerated. Dad came home from the war and they promptly had me and my sister a year apart so he was working quite a bit when he could and was not around much. When I was about five or six he came home and saw us playing in our room with me dressed up but he thought it was another of my sisters friends. When I came downstairs and said "do I look pretty daddy" he freaked and grabbed me and our coats and we got my hair cut very short right away. Mom & I were devastated and I cried quite a bit after that. I never liked him much after that and he was always trying to get me to be a man, pushing me into football or some other manly sport. When we moved to Canada we were away from all my aunts and he searched the neighbourhood for a boy for me to play with even pushing me to join the Scouts with a boy across the road who I did not like very much. I just wanted to play with my sister and her friends so that plan of his did not work for long. Being a little English boy in Canada in October, I was the only one to go to school in my school uniform with a blazer and short pants. In winter I was walking through knee deep snow and freezing to death so mom put me into my sisters tights and I loved it. Well being white tights with other kids teasing me all the time I was in tears most days coming home but we could not afford long pants at the time so I suffered the teasing but enjoyed wearing the tights. I had many other adventures dressing in girls things growing up and in my early teens told mom and my doctor that I was not a boy and something was wrong. I went through many tests and the doctor said I had low testosterone and perhaps higher estrogen levels but I would grow out of it. I don't really think that ever happened though.
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Wow Angela, that was a truly heart-felt account of your life. It proves how many of 'us' had to face so many issues growing up because of feelings we had that we, nor could anyone else, understand. Nor did they really even want to understand, just wanted 'us' to conform to what we were 'supposed' to be. I didn't experience what you did even though I felt the way you did. I kept it hidden because I felt ashamed and confused and knew I could not reveal myself to anyone. So I've always been the classic closet sissy/crossdresser. I truly feel like I was 'forced' to be a male and just did it the best I could and was quite successful doing it even though Patti was always what kept me going. My biggest regret and frustration is that my sexuality became confused also and self-stimulation became my outlet of enjoyment of my girl self. And it still is to a large extent. But I hate that it is. Sweet girls should be good girls and this one carries a lot of guilt for something I have never been able to control. I hope this makes sense to you but I truly wish I could have either been born a girl or been able to accept that I am a guy. Would have been a much easier life. At least I am now fortunate to be married to someone who I can be free to be me. Not that I dress like a girl or live like one now because of this new freedom, but I certainly could if I wanted to. And I can be open in any way I desire to be. Whew.....seems we can open up about ourselves on here once a few of us are comfortable enough to do it. :)
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You are right about our sexuality being blurred to some degree. Unlike what some people think, it is not all Black & White in many species on this planet of ours with some animals changing sex if needs be and some with both genders. That could have been our problem, as our bodies could not really decide which way to go and led us to very confusing times. Like many people today who say "I just prayed I would wake up a girl" I wished this every day of my life from a very early age and still do some days but of course it is beyond happening. I have lately been thinking, after reading so much about girls raped and kidnapped and sold into sexual slavery, would I still wish to be a girl in these times. Perhaps these things always happened but today we hear much more news than ever before with Social Media being what it is. The pull to live life as a girl is a pretty strong one so I think my answer would still be YES pick me, let me be the girl I was always meant to be. I do think I am jealous of transgender kids today who have so much help and many being out there for the public to learn about. Having said that, I am not going all Kaitlyn Jenner in my future as I cannot afford it for one and my family are still very close so I do not want to hurt them.
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Hi! Yes my wife does. She's thrown away the old mens underwear and buys me panties now and then. Always wants me to "change" when I get home- often into petticoat and nightie (babydoll in summer). I mentioned when we were dating, went OK - seeing she had few quirks of her own then I thought why not. It's give and take, something we must all remember (soooo easy to go too far at times). I've some pretty pink sissy dresses that she finds nice - especially when serving her tea or running a bubble bath or massaging her feet. Always give a bit. I'm not "lucky" - it's communicating at the start - something a little easier when was Internet dating.. can make the odd mention of.. "morning! just having breakfast a little lazy still in my nightie..." etc. :-)
Congratulations on your new marriage; sounds like a lovely partner. And same - you accept each other.
Hugs
Katrina x
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Thanks Angela & Katrina for your very candid responses. I love that we can share with each other our feelings in a fairly open way on here.
Angela I agree with you about the changing sex at our current age not being something that I would want either. Not only because of the obvious problems it would create...but I've always felt that I don't want to just become a woman my age. I want to enjoy the little girl growing into an adolescent girl and then a teenaged girl and then into womanhood. I want the whole experience or not at all. Sort of explains why as a crossdresser I am a sissy. It's all I can be at my age. But it is as a little sissy GIRL. Loving not only the cute clothes and the feelings they give me, but the emotional release and feelings of pretending to be HER. My problem has always been the guilt I always feel since these wonderful times usually result in my adult male taking over for satisfaction. I will never be able to come to grips with that! But so it goes.
Katrina I'm happy that you have a spouse who not only accepts you but also helps you and loves this part of you. It is rare I'm sure for that to happen. It didn't with my first wife who I loved dearly. She tried after I confessed to her my feelings, but she just could not be an active participant. And I accepted that. We can only be or do what we feel we can do. Now I have a wife who is totally accepting of everything about me. Sure, her being transgender does make a difference I'm sure. But she was always a girl and knew it from age 3 or 4. She was never a crossdresser or sissy. She was a born as a boy but never felt like one and just lived as one when she had to because of school. So yes she is more open because she has had to face certain obstacles in her life. But she is the perfect 2nd companion for me. I'm happy for both you & me! :)
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Hi cutepatti,
Took me long enough (been together 4 years) but I got a tiny bit of courage a couple of weeks ago and asked my fiancee (getting married next July) if it would be ok with her if I wore nighties to bed.
She giggled for a bit then asked why. I just said I like the feel of them (which I do). She said thats fine so I have been wearing nighties to bed ever since.
I dont want to push it to far by asking to wear dresses and skirts though think she might freak out :-(
At the moment I am wearing her nighties (lucky for me all her nighties are proper frilly, sexy, girly :-)).
I am taller than her though so secretly hoping she buys me a nightie or lingerie set for Christmas or even better matching set for me and her.
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I am glad that there is a forum like this, in which I can exchange.
Even in my childhod, I dreamed of belonging to a woman who keeps me trapped in her feminin world, like a sweet little girls-dolly.
In addition I have a strong soft spot for soft feminin clothes .
A fetish. While my friends fell for bar skin, the women enveloping me in soft, cuddly clothes. I dreamed that they would capture me and wrap me in their soft clothes as well.
All my life I have been looking for a woman who is dominant in this tender way. And I allways made compromises.
My last partnership ends in a desaster.
Now I have a girlfriend who is neither dominantn or wants to make me a sissyboy. But she like it when I wear her panties , and she knits me pink skarves. :0)
Sorry when I write a little bit strange! I need a translator. I do not speak english verry well.
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Hello Teddylein, I can relate to some of the things you said like wanting to find a girl/woman to keep you trapped in her feminine world. I have had a few girlfriends who upon discovering my fetish for girls clothes helped me to enjoy dressing up in their clothes. Of course this does not last long after parents discover the pervert boy playing with their daughters but in most cases they insisted that I keep some of their things to dress in secret. I am so hooked on these pretty soft things and the memories to go with them, that I still have a few items of their clothing almost 60 years later. Of course they are not wearable now due to size the the age of the items and the elastic waist bands fraying away to nothing. I never did find a woman to surround me in the wonderful clothes I loved and even dominate me a little but we can't have all our wishes come true can we or we would all be the girls we hoped we would wake up as someday. I did capture two woman in my lifetime and tie them down and slowly tease and make love to them as I wanted to happen to me but only one time did that happen to me and I was in heaven. Tied to the bed stretched out and wearing frilly pink panties with another pair stuffed in my mouth. She slowly teased and played with me and called me her sissy Princess. I was in love and lust at the same time and as she slowly teased me to the end I thought I had found my Mistress. When all was said and done I discovered that she hated every minute of it and even my telling her she was so good at it only got me called a pervert. We can't always get what we want.
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Thank you Angela for the answere. the girl I have talken about, was faszinated from my sexual expiriens. She buys Books:SM for beginners, and SM novels. And I sewed handcufs, while i renovated my hous for us, and her three children. She tied me on her clother, and give me istructions how I have to be her toy, whil she tied a cord on my dingdong.
A few jears later she said that she did not know that i need it realy, and I need a Psychologist. Than she saw my pictures I have drawen, than she means I am not a Man.
I was so freed as our paths parted. Now when I am alone in my bed, I pull my fluffy sleepin pants on, and my fauxfur jacked with a little bell on it and a pink skarf, ore a extrem fluffy white witch kribbelt on my nose. And i dream that I am the toy of two girls.
Ouh! And the pictures you can see by Deviant Art, my name there is Teddyxx. ;0)