I'm not older, I'm seasoned....
Gosh, it's been a while now but I went through the prostate problems and began taking med's but I also had a checkup (don't put that off). That prostate check uncovered cancer and it was late stage and a further exam discovered a fairly substantial tumor had taken over. Surgery and chemo after that (the tumor had jumped the wall of the prostate). That was about 16 years ago. Meanwhile....
I remember a male friend discreetly asking first if I had to wear.... you know.... those things.... you know.... like babies wear.... you know... whispering diapers. It was so damn funny listening to him beat around the bush trying to find ways to breach the subject. We were in a coffee shop, I was no longer working, he was a truck driver going to and from Los Angeles twice a week.
I'd decided to give him the slow intimate details in a positive light and see what might happen and said yes, I wore diapers We were at the back of the restaurant which was fairly quiet and somewhat discreet. I told him I wore tape on diapers under snap on plastic pants because I could with some difficulty change them in an emergency if I was out and about.
I'm not sure but I think it was Depends brand diapers and the plastic pants were Salk Sanipants snap on at the time which were fairly industrial strength. I told him I wore cloth diapers that pinned on like the old fashion baby diapers at night over the disposables because disposables didn't have much material at the sides. I said the key to being comfortable in diapers was baby lotion and baby powder.
I wish I had a cell phone with a camera back then but then again he wouldn't have let me take a picture anyway. The look on his face was priceless. He actually asked if I liked them and I confessed that I didn't at first but did now. I said they made me sleep more sound and wasn't sure why but they did. I told him he should try wearing diapers for his trips to LA and I knew right then that he already did because he flushed crimson.
He never really confessed to it but there it is.
Of course diapers and covers have evolved a lot since then. I now wear the Tranquility Premium Over Night Disposable pull up for day time and tape on for night under snap on plastic pants with a layer of nylon (like rumba panties without the ruffles). That nylon layer really does kept the mass from moving. I think I got those from Fetware but nowadays you can get diapers and plastic pants from damn near anywhere. Don't ask me why but the snap on plastic panties are a memory for me.
Hugs
Mary Beth
PS: Sorry I forgot to mention that I wear a cloth diaper over the disposable at night for added protection. About 99% of the time the disposable is enough.
The cost of health care in the US is outrageous period. I looked at two options when I was facing prostate surgery and wasn't sure how much my insurance would cover. India which was about $9,000 US (including the trip) and Mexico with was about $11,000 (including the trip). I spoke with several people that had done both. As it was I had a copay of $5,000 on a $66,000 bill for a radical prostatectomy. Chemo after that ran about $15,000 and I was lucky because it was short term. I shudder to think of those that can't afford to pay and simply die. I'm a Veteran so my medication is a modest copay but I've looked up some of the cost and it would easily run me $1,500 a month instead of $90 on pills that would be highly profitable at $1.00 each. It doesn't have to be this way... I think if every man put on a dress and protested health cost it would be one hell of a fun day in this country... Why the dress? Who wouldn't want to get out on a pretty spring day and simply walk down the street?